I wanted to do this post much earlier today, but I didn't. Because it's a hard one. It's controversial. But I decided -- who cares. It contains a message I strongly believe in. The message is about why I believe in abstinence before marriage and monogamy during, to bring about the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases.
But let me back up for a minute and tell you why I am talking about this today. December 1 is World AIDS Day 2008. It's also called "Bloggers Unite for World AIDS Day 2008." What this means is that bloggers all over the world will be bringing light to this subject, and will be bringing awareness to this epidemic, and stating what they believe should be done in regards to prevention, treatment, and how those with AIDS should be treated.
This won't be your typical "safe sex" post. I won't suggest that condoms should be thrown at them, while you turn away, telling them that they can use them if they just can't control themselves anyway. Why? Because it's sending them a mixed message -- telling them they just can't control themselves, just can't wait for marriage...
No, this will not be a "safe sex" post. I've already stated that to be safe, both the guy and girl must abstain before marriage, and be monogamous during. Do I believe our young people can do it -- can abstain before marriage? A resounding yes! Why? Because we as humans are made in the image of God. We are not mere animals with no self control. We have a will given to us by God. And those of us who are born again, have the Lord in us in a very special way, and can listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit, always relying on the Lord to keep us away from trouble and temptation. If you do not know Him today, it is as simple as calling on Him, and asking Him to reveal Himself to you... Trust me, this will work, I have never seen Him turn anybody away. Just ask Him...
But to be successful these young people, if they are going to be able to practice abstinence must be taught several things by their parents, and must be allowed to opt out of school sex education "safe sex" classes. They must be taught behaviors other than those that will lead to sex, AIDS and other Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Some of these behaviors that might lead to sex (and therefore STDs) may be alcohol use, drug use (pills, pot, and IV drug use), taking the birth control pill, hanging out with a poor choice of friends (which could get them into sexual behavior), etc.
These young people, especially the teenage girls, should be given a lot of support in their lives. They should be taught self respect, hope for their future, job training, a desire to improve their lives, a realization that they don't need a boyfriend to believe they are something special. They should be taught a certain sense of empowerment, and that they are special in and of themselves. They need to come to believe that they don't need a child at an early age to be fulfilled.
The girls should come to realize that sex before marriage is not a good deal for them. They need to be taught that if they get pregnant, they won't be in a happy situation. Guys often won't marry women after they've had an abortion or given birth. About 80% of couples break up after an abortion. He just doesn't respect her anymore. And if the girl gives birth to the baby, he still won't marry her either. Because he won't need to make a commitment any longer. Look at statistical facts and you will find they bear this out.
Then the young lady is left in the position to raise the child herself. Each of these girls must come to realize that if she just gives herself away like this, that she will no longer, quite possibly, be loved nor respected, nor will her child, and she must singlehandedly, then, take care of, support, and protect herself and her child. It's not a good deal for her or her child. And at this point, she just may have contracted an STD and just could have given it to her child. If this young man was that casual with her, who knows who else he has been casual with...
Another reason it is not wise for these girls to engage in sex is because they risk getting the Human Papilloma Virus every time they sleep with a guy, as sexual contact occurs in the entire genital area, including the area outside the area where condoms are worn. This causes the risk of HPV every time sex occurs. And now that we are on the subject of HPV, AIDS is not the most common STD in America. HPV is. The Journal of The American Medical Association recently estimated that 49% of sexually active college girls, and 40% of sexually active highschool girls in the US are infected with HPV, an STD which can lead to cervical cancer. So, one can easily ascertain that, because of the way HPV is contracted, and because of the high incidence of it, there is no such thing as "safe sex." It's just not tue -- neither statistically, scientifically, or medically.
We need to be concerned about how HPV is contracted, and its consequences. Think about it -- every other young woman who is sexually active, that walks past you on a college campus, may just have HPV. Soon we may have our own even more serious epidemic right here in the U.S. It could supercede the epidemic of AIDS in Africa in seriousness, if HPV continues to spread, and cervical cancer rises in prevalence.
To hear more about HPV, as well as the emotional effects of premarital sex, please watch the following video.
It also discusses that after four years, girls who are on the birth control pill have a 60% chance of having a baby. That means six out of ten girls on the pill will become pregnant in four years! Now, you and I both know, the only foolproof way for these girls not to have a child before marriage, is to not have sex before marriage. Yet they, perhaps, are the ones most likely to be having the children. Such irony. And so sad for them to be in a situation they feel they can't handle, after having been lied to by the sex industry, who has tried to push sex on them for profit. Here's the video I promised you:
So we've looked at why sex outside of marriage is not such a good deal. It's damaging for emotional and psychological reasons. It will lead to low self esteem. We've also discussed that it's not practical and it's not worth the pay off. You're likely to get a guy who won't commit afterward, especially if you've had a child, and who won't support you or the baby. Maybe you will be left with something. An STD. Sex before marriage is simply not practical, and it's a very bad deal. For both the girl and the guy. Sorry guys that I've beat up on you so badly in this post. You are sometimes the one to get the short end of the stick, I just don't have time to explain everything tonight...
Okay, now I am going to be bold again. There's another reason why you shouldn't have sex before marriage. It cuts off your spiritual life with God. It's a sin. If you find yourself in this kind of behavior, repent, and turn away, through the help of the Lord.
Okay, if you don't believe in the Bible, I'll give you another reason why you shouldn't practice what many call "safe sex."
"Safe Sex" isn't safe! Condoms just don't work. Let me give you some facts from this fact sheet:
In 1993 the University of Texas analyzed the results of 11 different studies that had tracked the effectiveness of condoms to prevent transmission of the AIDS virus. The average condom failure rate in the 11 studies for preventing transmission of the AIDS virus was 31%.
Here's a special post from Tom. Please don't get mad at me Tom, 'cause I didn't get a chance to ask if I could include you! You went offline, but I had to include this, as it was so beautiful and forgiving! Thanks!
"Never Hate the Sinner -- Hate the Sin."
graphic by Connie:
And remember, you all, true love waits! Okay, people, Spread the Word, Not the Disease! Krissy :)