Wednesday, May 28, 2008

John and my 3rd Wedding Anniversary

 
            John and I had our third anniversary on May 7th.              
 
We celebrated it a couple of weeks late.  Between coming back from John's oncology appointment in Hershey, John falling in the shower and spraining his neck, and all our numerous appointments, we didn't have time to celebrate until this past weekend. 
 
But when we had the chance, celebrate we did.  We grilled some steaks at the park.  And just spent time doing nothing.    
 
We also talked about our three years of marriage.  Yes, we like to reflect!
 
          John speaking on our three years of marriage              
 
"Married life has been a little bit different for Krissy and me than most couples.
 
We haven't had the average first three years of it.
 
In some ways it seems like we have been married a year because we have had one year, more or less, of normal married life.  The first two years were hospitalization, and outpatient treatment, and trips to Hershey.  And me being too sick to do anything.  So it was like we had one kind of marriage the first two years, and a different kind of marriage this last year.
 
How does it feel being married?  Even though it hasn't been a typical marriage, I am very glad Krissy is my wife .  Being married to her seems natural.  I wouldn't want any other lifestyle than I have right now being married to her. 
 
We have a strong commitment to each other and our marriage.  We must have had a strong commitment, because we survived.  Some other couples would have split up, or wouldn't have gotten married in the first place.  I mean, I was diagnosed with Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma a few months after we started dating, ten years ago, and Krissy stayed with me.  Also, we knew there was something wrong with my health again when we got married, and we still got married anyway.  And she stayed with me through the bone marrow cancer also.
 
Being a lot more healthy this past year has been a challenge to me because I have almost had to redefine our relationship.  For a year and a half I was mostly laying in a hospital bed and  Krissy spent fourteen hours a day with  me in the hospital.  For that year and a half she was my wife and my caregiver.  Now that my health has improved considerably she's still my wife, but she's no longer my caregiver.  And I am trying to be a more normal husband.
 
Even though I had two cancers, and a bone marrow transplant, and spent most of a year and a half in the hospital, the ten years I have been with her have been the best ten years of my life. "   
 
              Now it is my turn to speak (Krissy)                  
 
John is the love of my life.  He helps me get through everyday life.  I can't imagine being without him. I'm not saying things are never tough, but that is true in any relationship, I would think.  John is a very, very special guy.  I am more in love with him now than I ever was.  Hey, what more is there to say?    
 
Krissy :)

30 comments:

  1. He is very sweet and so are you. Happy Aniversary!

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  2. carouselqueen705/28/2008 10:12 PM

    Happy anniversary!!!!! It was very beautiful what the both of you said. I really wish I had that kind of dedication in my marrige. You are so very lucky..love, Christine

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  3. Krissy, congratulations to my two favorite people.  You never would have made it
    throught all of this if you didn't have a very strong bond and love each other as you do.  You both are an inspiration.  I love you guys......

    Love and hugs   Myke

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  4. monicasmemoirs5/28/2008 10:25 PM

    WoW, three years already?  It just seems like it was a few months ago I saw the photo of  you in your wedding gown getting ready to marry John.  I wish you two many more years of happiness and love.

    Monica

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  5. Happy belated anniversary you guys and wishing you both many more.   Dawn

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  6. Happy anniversary!!!
    I wish you many many more happy years together!
    What a beautiful tribute to each other!!

    Love,

    Michelle

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  7. Happy Anniversary!!! I don't know why I thought you guys were married longer than 3 years, but maybe because you've been together for 10 years!

    so glad you got a picnic in the park with grilling steak! I bet it was a very special time

    wishing you many more wonderful years together!

    betty

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  8. Happy Anniversary!

    Hugs, Rose

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  9.     A very hearty and happy anniversary.
    Jude
    http://journals.aol.com/jmorancoyle/MyWay

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  10. Congratulations to both of you !!  And Krissy bless you for standing with John.  Some wives (and husbands) leave when the going gets tough.  God Bless you both and may you have many more happy years together !  Linda in Washington state  

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  11. 3 years already?!?!  It seems just like a couple weeks ago that you got married!  Hee hee....HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!  Here's to many more!!!

    ::hug hug hug::

    ~Amy

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  12. heavenlybama5/28/2008 11:51 PM

    Happy Anniversary to you both!  I thought you two have been married for years (I've only been reading your journal for about 2 yrs.).  John's story sounds like Den's.  Like he said, most couples would have split because one was sick and Den's illness has gotten worse as the years go by but I take my vows serious through sickness and health.  We'll be married 25 yrs. in December, been together 27 yrs.  It sure doesn't seem that long!  LOL
    Hugs,
    D

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  13. cherry2sweet2eat5/29/2008 12:03 AM

    Happy anniversary me and my boyfriend celebrated our 6 month anniversary on the 24th yes because its my longest relationship lol.

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  14. Happy Anniversary!!
    Pam

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  15. Congratulations on a very blessed 3 years !  May you enjoy many more!
    'On Ya' - ma

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  16. nightmaremom5/29/2008 7:05 AM

    Happy Anniversary... wishing you many many more!
    hugs
    d

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  17. Happy Anniversary to you both. Wishing you many more years of happiness together. Love Pam xx

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  18. Happy Anniversary to both of you!
    Missie

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  19. Congratulations on three years. Hope you make it 30X3.
    ;^) Jan the Gryphon

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  20. K & J~Congrats on a very special marriage anniversary! You two are an inspiration. Wishing you many many more! ;-) Deborah

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  21. hugsdoodlewacky5/29/2008 12:54 PM

    )(((((((((((((((((((((((((KRISSY/JOHN)))))))))))))))))))))))))))Happy Annivasry to both of you.I am sorry Ih avent been around,I havent been getting all of my alerts.By the way,if you can send me an email on the next Scvanger hunt,I would be greatful.I miss doing it.I hope and pray Johns neck feels better.

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  22. I think you both will be celebrating for many happy years to come as well!
                                           CONGRATULATIONS
    Nancy

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  23. Oh, sweetie, congratulations!  Though a little late.  ;o)  May God bless you both with many, many more!  -  Barbara

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  24. Still crying... xox

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  25. Happy happy anniversary and many more!!!! Deb ;-)

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  26. Happy Anniversary.
    Mark and I will celebrate three years on the 26th, June
    Laini

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  27. ahh what a sweet entry Happy ANNIVERSARY
    hugs
    Sherry

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  28. randlprysock6/01/2008 5:36 PM

    Wishing you and John a very very happy anniversary Krissy!!!
    Lisa

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  29. cacklinrosie1016/07/2008 8:43 AM

    Bless you both, and Happy Anniversary!  You've been together 10 years?  What a celebration of life John is.  It's neat to read the perspective from both sides.  Your love will surely endure.  Love, Chris

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  30. Now I am way behind with alerts as you can see.....ho hum.......... hope i havent already left a comment, but am trying frantically to get up to date with about 150 journals mails............ sigh....lol

    Anyway Happy Belated Anniversary if i havent already said so..... and if i already did.... well i said it again   :o))

    Take care Jayne

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