John and I had our third anniversary on May 7th.
We celebrated it a couple of weeks late. Between coming back from John's oncology appointment in Hershey, John falling in the shower and spraining his neck, and all our numerous appointments, we didn't have time to celebrate until this past weekend.
But when we had the chance, celebrate we did. We grilled some steaks at the park. And just spent time doing nothing.
We also talked about our three years of marriage. Yes, we like to reflect!
John speaking on our three years of marriage
"Married life has been a little bit different for Krissy and me than most couples.
We haven't had the average first three years of it.
In some ways it seems like we have been married a year because we have had one year, more or less, of normal married life. The first two years were hospitalization, and outpatient treatment, and trips to Hershey. And me being too sick to do anything. So it was like we had one kind of marriage the first two years, and a different kind of marriage this last year.
How does it feel being married? Even though it hasn't been a typical marriage, I am very glad Krissy is my wife . Being married to her seems natural. I wouldn't want any other lifestyle than I have right now being married to her.
We have a strong commitment to each other and our marriage. We must have had a strong commitment, because we survived. Some other couples would have split up, or wouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I mean, I was diagnosed with Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma a few months after we started dating, ten years ago, and Krissy stayed with me. Also, we knew there was something wrong with my health again when we got married, and we still got married anyway. And she stayed with me through the bone marrow cancer also.
Being a lot more healthy this past year has been a challenge to me because I have almost had to redefine our relationship. For a year and a half I was mostly laying in a hospital bed and Krissy spent fourteen hours a day with me in the hospital. For that year and a half she was my wife and my caregiver. Now that my health has improved considerably she's still my wife, but she's no longer my caregiver. And I am trying to be a more normal husband.
Even though I had two cancers, and a bone marrow transplant, and spent most of a year and a half in the hospital, the ten years I have been with her have been the best ten years of my life. "
Now it is my turn to speak (Krissy)
John is the love of my life. He helps me get through everyday life. I can't imagine being without him. I'm not saying things are never tough, but that is true in any relationship, I would think. John is a very, very special guy. I am more in love with him now than I ever was. Hey, what more is there to say?